Choosing who you marry is one of the most important decisions that you will ever make for your life.

The way you treat each other will greatly impact the quality of your worldly life. In fact, happily married couples have longer lifespans and are less likely to have poor mental health – whereas the opposite is sadly true.

This is why it is extremely important to exert oneself to find the right wife and learn how to manage a blissful marital relationship from the start.

This program is designed to meet the needs of single brothers at all stages of their journeys:

• If you are just starting to think about marriage and look for a wife
• If you have already begun meeting sisters and considering them
• If you have found a potential spouse, but want to make sure you are making a good choice and will be a good husband
• If you have previously been married and want to make a new start

• Learn what the Qur’an and Sunna say about a successful Islamic marriage 
• Hear about unrealistic expectations that brothers often have about marriage
• Discover ways to know if you’re truly ready for marriage 
• Find out key questions to ask her before agreeing to marry and what red flags to be aware of 
• Learn the Islamic perspective on healthy masculinity and the husband’s role
• Gain an appreciation for how males and females need to feel loved with our gender difference education

The “Becoming A Husband” Premarital Program consists of FOUR private 60-minute video sessions with the coach. Clients will be given comprehensive PDF’s of each sessions content provided, which contain action steps for each session.

 Session 1: The Right Mindset

-Getting ready NOW!

-Knowing your reasons

-Forming realistic expectations

Session 2: Marriage and You

-Learning the keys to a successful marriage

-Are you ready?

Session 3: Marriage and Her*

-Knowing where to look

-Understanding what to look for

-Mastering the choosing process

Session 4: The Muslim Husband & Healthy Masculinity

-Your roles and role model

-Her roles

-Controlling desire

*If you have already chosen your spouse, this session can be replaced with an optional session choice instead.

Session 5: Early years of marriage. Learning marriage skills, including communication and conflict resolution skills (optional)

Session 6: The basic fiqh of marriage and divorce – Hanafi madhhab (optional)

Each optional session costs $65 USD / £50 GBP each. 

• Each session runs for 60 minutes 
• One session per week to allow time for reflection
• Conducted online via Zoom
• Flexible timing and scheduling based upon the client’s needs. (The coach is based in the UK.)

• $250 USD / £199 GBP for the 4 core sessions
• Any extra optional session is $65 USD / £50 GBP
• Payment via PayPal, credit/debit, or UK bank transfer

Anas Sillwood is a Gottman Marriage Institute Trained Leader as well as marriage coach focusing on single brothers and husbands. He is also a long-term student of the Islamic sciences, which he studied whilst living in the Middle East for over 20 years. Lastly, Anas is also a businessman, having founded SHUKR Islamic clothing, which was the first modest clothing company launched in the West. He is passionate about helping young Muslims become marriage literate – to understand what it is that makes a good marriage – and to put this knowledge into practice.

Read more about Anas here.

We believe that a successful Muslim marriage is based upon the teachings of Allah Most High and His Messenger (Allah bless him and give him peace). The best examples can be seen within the marriages between the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) and his wives (Allah be pleased with them).

We realize from their stories that a successful Muslim marriage is built and sustained by having God-consciousness, embodying excellent character and appreciating gender differences.

A successful Muslim couple will show love, compassion, consideration, respect, appreciation, gratitude, patience, and sacrifice towards each other. Furthermore, a successful Muslim couple can identify and empathize with each other’s needs, boundaries, and vulnerabilities. At the heart of it, the two are best friends.

Sessions are conducted in a comfortable and relaxed environment via Zoom or in person.

Clients can ask as many marriage questions as they like and consult the coach for his professional opinion.